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Evangelical Masculinity


Traditionally speaking, the word "evangelical" as it applies to church has been associated with churches that believe being born again of the Spirit is necessary for salvation.  Traditionally speaking, the word "masculine" has been associated with the inherent characteristics of being a male, something our culture now rejects.


Sometimes masculinity is hyperbolically depicted as being hyper-masculine.  This is humorously portrayed in the book entitled "Real Men Don't Eat Quiche," written by Bruce Feirstein and Lee Lorenz and published in 1982 by Pocket Books.  I incorporated this exaggerated masculinity in my book entitled "Divorce, Remarriage, And God's Original Intention."  In one chapter I wrote:   


"Real men are to be tough.  They idolize three hundred pound fullbacks for the New York Jets, Washington Guardians, Dallas Cowboys, or the team of their choice.  They sit on their couches every Sunday afternoon and watch the big game.  With remote in one hand, beer in another hand, they demand yet another beer from "the wife."  Note, it's "the wife," not "my wife."  "My wife" sounds way too tender hearted for real men.  Such a display of tenderness is avoided at all cost.  The emotion of choice for real men is displayed when they explode with a monstrous roar sprinkled with a few vulgarities as their team crosses into the end zone.


The book stated that when real men spit, they just let it fly.  They don't care where it lands.  It's fine if it simply slobbers its way down their beards and onto their shirts.  If I were you, I would be careful not to stand too close to a real man.  You never know what will fly out of his mouth as he slobbers nonsensicalness from his lips.


Real men are modern day cave men, of course, equipped with all of their high tech devices, or should I say vices.  They are tough, rough, independent, stubborn, and are capable of fighting their way to the top of any heap, and that they will do at the drop of a dime.


Okay, so I'm not a real man."


With the above in mind, I've recently heard the term "evangelical masculinity" associated with parts of the Evangelical Church where the gospel of God's grace is exhibited in a hyper-masculine, ungraceful, militant nastiness, which 2 Timothy 2:24 to 26 says shouldn't be.  


"The Lord's servant must not quarrel, but must be gentle to everyone, able to teach, and patient, instructing his opponents with gentleness. Perhaps God will grant them repentance leading them to the knowledge of the truth.  Then they may come to their senses and escape the trap of the devil, who has taken them captive to do his will."


We must "have the same mindset as Christ Jesus:  Who, being in the very nature God, did not consider equality with God something to be used to his own advantage; rather, he made himself nothing by taking the very nature of a servant, being made in human likeness.  And being found in appearance as a man, he humbled himself by becoming obedient to death— even death on a cross" (Philippians 2:5 - 8).  It is not evangelical masculinity.  It is not evangelical femininity.  It is evangelical humility, a calm confidence, a security in Jesus whereby we exhibit God's grace in a graceful way.       

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